The longer you’re around, the more ‘seems like’ goes out of the window:
- When you don’t know a team member well, ‘seems like’ is all you have to work with. After all, you don’t yet know their character sufficiently to suppose whether or not a misunderstanding or anomaly has occurred.
- When you know a team member well, ‘seems like’ becomes a crass negligence of care to recognize their character. In this scenario, to not discard the anomaly as an anomaly says more about you than it does about them.
New team members need to demonstrate goodness of character to move beyond ‘seems like’.
The old guard (and new guard) have earned the benefit of the doubt. Listen to them.