On feeling let down by team

The thing about working with a team is…

People will only let you down if:

• You lean on them for more than you should
• You trust them more than you should
• You need them more than you should

We feel let down when we needed someone to come through but they didn’t. It’s our fault that we were in a ‘need’ position. Don’t ‘need’, don’t feel let down.

We feel let down when we trust people too much. People have to earn trust, and if we give it flippantly, it’s our fault when it doesn’t work out.

We feel let down when we lean on people and they move away. It’s our fault that we leaned so heavily. Don’t lean, don’t feel let down.

It’s tricky.

Especially when you generally really like people.

But it’s a kindness to yourself and to others to not get this wrong.